Step-by-Step Guide to Writing a Memorable Eulogy

Writing a eulogy can feel like a daunting task, especially when you’re overwhelmed with grief. But it’s also a profound way to honour your person’s life and share their story. This guide will help you craft a heartfelt and memorable eulogy that celebrates their essence and leaves a lasting impression...

1. Understand the Purpose of a Eulogy
​A eulogy isn’t just a list of dates and achievements—it’s a chance to paint a vivid picture of who your person was. The goal is to celebrate their life, highlight their unique qualities, and create a sense of connection. A good eulogy weaves together personal stories, moments of significance, and the emotions these evoke.

2. Reflect on Their Life and Legacy
Begin by reflecting on the person’s life and what made them special. Consider their:
 ·   Personality: Were they kind, humorous, adventurous, or nurturing?
 ·   Passions: What hobbies, causes, or interests defined them?
 ·   Relationships: How did they touch the lives of family, friends, and their community?
 ·   Values: What did they stand for or believe in deeply?
Write down memories that come to mind. Allow your thoughts to flow freely--Don’t filter yourself at this stage.

3. Focus on Moments of Significance
Rather than listing events chronologically, focus on moments that capture the essence of their character. Moments of significance are those that reveal something meaningful about the person. These could include:
 ·   Milestones that reflect their values:
     A story about how they supported a friend in need or worked tirelessly to achieve a goal.
 ·   Everyday moments with profound meaning:
     A shared cup of tea, a spontaneous dance, or the way they made others laugh.
 ·   Key life events tied to history or time:
     Did they marry during a memorable cultural moment? Were they born on the day of a world-changing event?
     These connections help anchor their story in a larger context.

4. Embrace the Power of Storytelling
Storytelling is the heart of a memorable eulogy. A well-told story engages the audience emotionally, making your person’s life feel vivid and real. Storytelling creates emotional resonance that a chronological recount of events cannot.

5. Organise Your Thoughts
Once you’ve chosen your stories and key moments, structure the eulogy in a way that feels natural. A simple structure might include:
 ·   Introduction: A opening that sets the tone and introduces your relationship to your person.
 ·   Key Themes or Stories: Choose 2-4 stories or themes that illustrate their character.
 ·   Closing: End with a personal reflection, a message of gratitude, or a favourite quote.

6. Find Your Voice
Write the eulogy in a tone that feels authentic to you and your person. It’s okay to include humour if it feels appropriate.

7. Practice Your Delivery
Once written, read the eulogy aloud several times, use 'Text-to-Talk', and record yourself. Practice helps you find a comfortable rhythm and identify parts that don't 'sound' quite right or like you. This will also help identify words or phrases you can't get your mouth around! Remember, it is OK to pause—take your time—emotions are natural and expected.

Final Thoughts
Remember, there’s no “perfect” eulogy—it’s your love and sincerity that matter most. The impact of your words lies in the emotions they evoke rather than the specifics they convey.

"I've learned that people will forget what you said ... but [they] will never forget how you made them feel."
                                                                                                                                                                     ⁓ Maya Angelou